‘I don’t think that I will ever be loved.’ She said.
‘And what made you think so?’ I asked.
‘I’m fat and I feel ugly.’
This is my friend’s story that I was narrating here. Okay, now you may say that that’s absurd and silly of her to think so, and trust me, that was my first reaction too. But now that I think of it, my friends, her point too is equally argumentative as is mine or yours. It’s natural for her to feel low about her heavy structure because that’s what we’ve been learning and grasping ever since our senses started working. We are told over and over from a young age that long and slim structure is feminine, desirable, and attractive. And since she lacks it all, well, it’s obvious on her part to feel that she will never be loved as a woman is loved by a man.
A perfect body is synonyms to beauty and the proof is here: Nobody finds oversize bodies attractive and that’s the reason why we barely see actors and models beyond the “zero size”.
Tell me how many of you would rather have the bulky lady instead of the skinny one star in your favorite movie (except if the movie is titled : I LOVE FAT)?
I guess that it’s not really easy to be the selves that we are when the society is not ready to accept that beauty confides not within the fixed boundaries of shapes and sizes. Note that I used “I guess” because I have never experienced that melancholic feeling of being fat myself. It’s hard to cope when you are constantly reminded that to be beautiful, you need a “perfect body”. And that is where all the miseries spring from. ….and it’s not just women who feel that way. Men too are as conscious of their body structure as are the women.
Let’s not make it hard for ourselves and for others to feel beautiful the way they are. When reaching Mars is not a big issue anymore, then why is being BIG still an issue that haunts many of our lives? That’s why I decided to come up with this post in the first place. I want to remind each one of you out there that you are beautiful.
The size of my body shouldn’t determine my worth as a person. I’ve haven’t given the power of judgement to anyone to measure me on the basis of my size, and now I get started to flaunt myself the way I am.